Scapegoat Child ek aisa bachcha hota hai jise narcissistic parent ya dysfunctional family har galti ka zimmedar thaharati hai. Yeh bachcha unka emotional punching bag ban jaata hai — jahan par sab negative feelings, frustration, aur guilt dump kiya jaata hai.
⚫ Definition:
Scapegoat ka matlab hota hai “bali ka bakra.” Family system mein yeh role us bachche ko milta hai jo narcissistic parent ke control, manipulation, aur abuse ka primary target hota hai. Wo har situation mein galat bana diya jaata hai, chahe uski koi galti ho ya na ho.
⚫ Example:
Agar family mein kuch galat hota hai — jaise parent ka mood kharab ho, financial problem ho, ya kisi aur ne kuch galat kiya ho — to uska blame Scapegoat Child par daal diya jaata hai. Agar sibling (jaise Golden Child) ne kuch kiya bhi ho, fir bhi punishment scapegoat ko milta hai.
⚫ Traits aur Characteristics:
- Constant blame aur criticism face karna
- Family ke andar isolated ya alag mehsoos karna
- Truth bolne par punished hona
- Over-responsible ban jaata hai (har problem apni galti samajhta hai)
- Low self-esteem aur guilt ka deep sense
- Often becomes a truth-teller or Cycle Breaker
- Sensitive, intuitive aur emotionally aware hota hai
⚫ Narcissistic Family Structure mein Role:
Scapegoat child narcissist ke liye ek emotional trash bin jaisa hota hai. Jab narcissist parent khud apni guilt, shame, ya insecurity face nahi kar paata, to wo sab kuch scapegoat par project kar deta hai — isse kehte hain Projection (🔗 Projection).
Yehi wo bachcha hota hai jo abuse ka sach pehchanta hai, sawaal uthata hai, aur boundaries lagata hai — isliye narcissist usse sabse zyada dangerous maanta hai. Yeh child aksar No Contact ka pehla step lene wala hota hai.
⚫ Impact in Adulthood:
- Trust issues aur relationship anxiety
- Chronic guilt aur self-doubt
- People-pleasing tendencies ya phir extreme withdrawal
- Deep need for validation
- Therapy aur inner healing ki journey mein nikalta hai
- Aksar Empath ya Super Empath ban jaata hai
⚫ Scapegoat vs. Golden Child (Quick View):
| Aspect | Scapegoat Child | Golden Child |
|---|---|---|
| Blame | Always blamed | Rarely blamed |
| Attention | Negative | Positive |
| Treatment | Criticism, Rejection | Praise, Favoritism |
| Parent se Relationship | Tense, Fearful | Idolized |
| Reality ke sath Connection | High | Low (idealized version mein phase rehta hai) |