Definition:
Narcissistic parent wo hota hai jo apne bachche ko apne extension ke roop mein dekhta hai — uski individuality aur emotional needs ko ignore karke. Aise parent apne bache ke achievements se apna ego boost karte hain, aur jab bachcha unki expectations par nahi utarta, to usse emotional abuse, guilt-tripping ya silent treatment diya jata hai.
Ye parent-child relationship healthy bonding par nahi, balki control, image-maintenance, aur manipulation par based hoti hai.
Key Traits:
- Child se unrealistic expectations
- Emotional invalidation (“Tu zyada sochta hai”)
- Apne galtiyon ka blame child par dalna
- Favoritism (golden child vs scapegoat)
- Reputation aur image maintain karna sabse important
Example:
Neha ka father hamesha kehta, “Tum mere naam ki izzat ho, fail hue to meri beizzati hai.” Jab Neha apne career choice mein kuch alag karna chahti thi, to usse emotionally blackmail kiya gaya: “Mere itne sapne tum par the, tumne sab kuch tod diya.”
Is tarah ka emotional manipulation ek narcissistic parent ka clear sign hai, jahan parental love conditional hota hai — sirf tabhi milta hai jab bachcha parent ki image serve kare.