🔤 A
Adoration Phase – Jab shuru me narcissist bahut pyar aur attention deta hai.
Example: “Papa shuru me mujhe hero banake treat karte the.”
Apology without Change – Maafi maangna sirf dikhawa, bina behavior badle.
Example: “Vo bolta tha ‘sorry’, par agle din wahi abuse karta tha.”
🔤 B
Blame Shifting – Apni galti doosre pe dal dena.
Example: “Usne galti ki, par kehta ‘tumhare wajah se hua’.”
Blaming the Victim – Jab victim ko hi doshi banaya jata hai.
Example: “Papa kehte the ‘tum chillaate ho, isliye main maar deta hoon’.”
Breadcrumbing – Chhoti chhoti umeede dekar emotionally latka ke rakhna.
Example: “Vo kehta tha ki sab theek ho jaayega, par kuch nahi badla.”
Boundaries – Wo limit jo aap apne self-respect ke liye set karte ho.
Example: “Maine bola ki mujhe chilla ke baat mat karo.”
🔤 C
Caretaker Role – Jab victim ko narcissist ka emotional support banna padta hai.
Example: “Main unka gussa, unka dukh sambhalta tha jaise main unka parent hoon.”
Cognitive Dissonance – Jab aapka dimaag do opposite cheezon ko samajhne me confused ho jaye.
Example: “Vo kehta tha ‘main tumse pyar karta hoon’ par har waqt dard deta tha.”
Conditional Love – Jab pyar sirf tab milta hai jab aap unki baat maano.
Example: “Papa sirf tab pyar dikhate the jab main unki marzi se chalta tha.”
Control – Jab doosra vyakti aapke decisions, emotions ya actions par kabja karta hai.
Example: “Main kya pahun, kis se baat karu – sab kuch wo decide karta tha.”
Covert Narcissist – Chhupa narcissist jo bahar se innocent dikhe par andar se toxic ho.
Example: “Vo hamesha victim banta tha, par sabko usi ki baat maanni padti thi.”
Criticism – Bar-bar doosre ki burai karna.
Example: “Papa kehte the – ‘Tu kabhi kuch nahi banega.’”
Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) – Baar-baar emotional trauma hone par hone wali mental halat. Example: “Mujhe baar-baar nightmares aate hain aur main over-alert rehta hoon.”
🔤 D
Devaluation Phase – Jab narcissist aapki insult karne lagta hai.
Example: “Ek din ‘best beta’ bolte the, doosre din ‘bekaar’.”
Discard Phase – Jab aap narcissist ke kaam ke nahi rehte aur wo ignore karta hai.
Example: “Usne mujhe ignore kar diya jaise main kabhi tha hi nahi.”
Disrespect – Jab kisi ki feelings ya value ki kadar na ki jaye.
Example: “Usne mere sapno ka mazaak banaya.”
Double Standard – Jab rules sab pe alag-alag tarike se lagaye jaate hain.
Example: “Usko gussa karne ka haq tha, mujhe nahi.”
Denial – Jab koi sach ko maanne se inkaar karta hai. Example: “Papa kabhi nahi maante the ki unka behavior abusive tha.”
🔤 E
Emotional Abuse – Jab aapke emotions ke sath khela jaye.
Example: “Usne mujhe itna doubt me daal diya ki main khud ko hi samajh nahi paaya.”
Enabler – Jo narcissist ke toxic behavior ko support karta hai.
Example: “Mummy kehti thi ‘vo to aise hi hain’, aur unki har baat chhupa leti thi.”
Emotional Neglect – Jab kisi ki feelings aur emotions ko nazarandaz kiya jaye. Example: “Main udaas tha, lekin kisi ne pucha bhi nahi ki main theek hoon ya nahi.”
🔤 F
False Image – Apne baare me perfect aur fake image banana.
Example: “Papa sabko dikhate the ki hamari family happy hai.”
Fantasy World – Jab narcissist apne dimaag me perfect image banata hai.
Example: “Papa samajhte the ki hamari family sabse perfect hai, chahe andar se sab toot chuke the.”
Flying Monkeys – Vo log jo narcissist ke kehne par aapko abuse karte hain.
Example: “Mere cousin papa ki har baat maan kar mujhe blame karte the.”
Future Faking – Jab narcissist jhoothe promises karta hai.
Example: “Vo kehte the ‘agli baar tujhe gift dunga’, par kabhi nahi diya.”
Fake Apology – Jhooti maafi sirf image ya manipulation ke liye. Example: “Usne kaha ‘sorry’, lekin fir wahi galti dobara ki.”
Fawning Response – Jab victim khush karne ki koshish karta hai taaki abuse na ho. Example: “Main hamesha unki marzi se chalta tha taaki vo gussa na ho.”
🔤 G
Gaslighting – Aapko confuse kar dena ki aapki reality galat hai.
Example: “Usne kaha ‘aisa kab hua? Tumhara dimaag kharab hai’.”
Gaslighter’s Script – Common lines jo aapki soch bigaadne ke liye hoti hain.
Example: “‘Tu hamesha overreact karta hai’, ‘ye sab tera imagination hai.’”
Ghosting – Achaanak contact tod dena bina kuch bataye.
Example: “Maine ek baat se disagree kiya, aur usne mujhe ignore kar diya.”
Golden Child Syndrome – Wo bacha jo hamesha praise aur special treatment paata hai.
Example: “Mere bhai ko sab kuch milta tha, aur main hamesha daanta jaata tha.”
Gaslighting by Proxy – Jab flying monkeys bhi aapko gaslight karte hain narcissist ke kehne pe. Example: “Papa ne mummy se kehwaya – ‘tum hi hamesha overreact karti ho’.”
🔤 H
High-Functioning Narcissist – Jo bahar se successful dikhta hai par andar se controlling hota hai.
Example: “Sab unhe admire karte the, par ghar me vo hamesha chillate the.”
Hoovering – Jab narcissist dobara contact karke manipulate karta hai.
Example: “Usne message bheja – ‘mujhe tumhari yaad aayi’, taaki main wapas chala jaun.”
🔤 I
Idealize-Devalue-Discard Cycle – Ek emotional cycle: pehle pyar, phir insult, phir ignore.
Example: “Vo mujhe star bana ke treat karte the, phir mujhe hi blame karte the.”
Illusion of Change – Jab narcissist dikhata hai ki wo badal gaya hai, par asal me nahi badla.
Example: “Vo kehta tha ‘main sudhar gaya hoon’, lekin wahi abuse karta tha.”
Inconsistency – Kabhi pyar, kabhi gussa – unpredictable behavior.
Example: “Ek din mujhe hug karte, doosre din baat tak nahi karte.”
Invisible Abuse – Abuse jo dikhai nahi deta par deeply chot pahunchata hai.
Example: “Papa kabhi nahi maare, par unki baatein meri self-worth khatam kar deti thi.”
Idealization – Kisi ko perfect banana ya dikhana, asliyat ke khilaf.
Example: “Papa sabko dikhate the ki main unka ‘best beta’ hoon, lekin sirf bahar ke logon ke liye.”
Invalidation – Jab aapki feelings ko naakar diya jata hai.
Example: “Main bola mujhe dukh ho raha hai, aur unhone kaha ‘naatak mat kar’.”
🔤 J
Jealousy Triggers – Jab narcissist jaan bujh kar kisi aur ki tarif karta hai taaki aapko hurt ho.
Example: “Papa kehte the, ‘dekha tera cousin kitna intelligent hai’, mujhe neecha dikhane ke liye.”
🔤 L
Lack of Empathy – Doosre ke dukh aur pain ko mehsoos na karna.
Example: “Main ro raha tha, aur usne kaha – ‘rona bandh kar’.”
Love Bombing – Shuruat me over-pyar aur attention dena taaki aapko control kiya ja sake.
Example: “Vo kehta tha ‘tum meri zindagi ho’, par baad me ignore karne laga.”
Love Withdrawal – Jab attention achaanak chhin liya jata hai control ke liye.
Example: “Jab maine unki baat nahi maani, to 1 hafte tak ignore kiya.”
🔤 M
Manipulation – Kisi ko chaal se apne favor me control karna.
Example: “Usne emotional guilt create kiya taaki main maan jaun.”
Manipulative Silence – Chup rehkar doosre ko guilty feel karwana. Example: “Vo 2 din tak baat nahi karte the taaki main maafi maangu.”
Masking – Jab narcissist apne asal chehra ko chhupata hai.
Example: “Bahar vo sweet ban ke dikhta tha, ghar me gussa karta tha.”
Mirroring – Aapki personality ko copy karke aapka trust jeetna.
Example: “Vo meri pasand ki har cheez pasand karne laga – jhootha act tha.”
Mocking – Kisi ki baat ya emotion ka mazaak banana.
Example: “Maine apna dukh bataya, aur vo hanste hue bole ‘tu to bahut emotional hai’.”
🔤 N
Narcissistic Abuse – Jab ek narcissist baar-baar emotionally ya mentally dard deta hai.
Example: “Papa mujhe hamesha guilt me daal kar control karte the.”
Narcissistic Injury – Jab narcissist ko hurt hota hai jab unka ego challenge hota hai.
Example: “Maine unki galti batai, aur unhone mujhpe chillana shuru kar diya.”
Narcissistic Rage – Extreme gussa jab unki izzat pe baat aati hai.
Example: “Maine mana kiya unki baat maanne se, to vo pagal jaise chillane lage.”
Narcissistic Father – Aisa pita jo controlling, self-centered aur abusive ho.
Example: “Usne kabhi nahi poocha ki mujhe kya chahiye, sirf apne standards thope.”
Neglect – Jab emotional ya physical care nahi diya jata.
Example: “Vo mere report card tak nahi dekhte the.”
No Contact – Jab aap narcissist se poori tarah contact tod dete ho.
Example: “Maine unka number block kar diya taaki khud ko protect kar saku.”
🔤 O
Over-Controlling Parent – Jo har decision aapke liye khud hi leta hai.
Example: “Kaunse subject padhna hai, kya pehna hai – sab kuch vo decide karte the.”
Overt Narcissist – Jo khule aam dominating aur abusive hota hai.
Example: “Vo sabke saamne mujhe neecha dikhata tha, bina sharam ke.”
🔤 P
Parentification – Jab bacha apne parent ka emotional support ban jaata hai.
Example: “Main unka therapist ban gaya tha jabki mujhe khud care chahiye thi.”
Passive Aggression – Gusse ko indirectly dikhana.
Example: “Vo mujhe ignore karta tha jab main uski baat nahi maanta.”
Projection – Apni galti doosre pe daal dena.
Example: “Usne mujhe jhootha bola, jabki vo khud jhooth bolta tha.”
Parental Alienation – Jab ek parent doosre parent ke khilaf child ko bhadkata hai.
Example: “Papa kehte the – ‘Teri maa tujhe samajhti hi nahi’.”
Personal Boundaries – Apne mental/emotional space ki limit set karna.
Example: “Maine bola – ‘Mujhse gusse me baat mat karo’.”
Projection of Guilt – Apni galti victim pe daal dena taaki guilt na mehsoos ho.
Example: “Unhone mujhe maara aur kaha – ‘Tere wajah se mujhe gussa aaya’.”
🔤 R
Reactive Abuse – Jab victim defend karta hai aur narcissist usi pe blame daal deta hai.
Example: “Main cheekha to usne bola – ‘dekha, tu hi abusive hai’.”
Role Reversal – Jab parent bachcha ban jata hai aur bachcha parent ka role leta hai.
Example: “Main unki tension, unka mood sambhalta tha – jaise main parent hoon.”
Rejection Sensitivity – Chhoti si na bhi narcissist ko deeply hurt karti hai.
Example: “Maine unki baat se disagree kiya aur vo 2 din gussa rahe.”
Reparenting – Khud ko dobara emotionally nurture karna, jaise ek acha parent karta.
Example: “Main ab khud se pyar karta hoon jaise mujhe bachpan me milna chahiye tha.”
🔤 S
Sabotage – Kisi ki life ya progress ko chhup kar bigaadna.
Example: “Vo mere doston ko mujhse alag karta tha.”
Scapegoat Child – Wo bacha jise sab galtiyon ka zimmedar banaya jata hai.
Example: “Jo bhi ghar me galat hota tha, blame mujh pe aata tha.”
Self-Blame – Har cheez ke liye khud ko doshi banana.
Example: “Mujhe lagta tha sab meri galti hai.”
Self-Doubt – Jab aapko khud pe bharosa nahi rehta.
Example: “Mujhe har decision pe shak hone laga tha.”
Silent Treatment – Bina kuch kahe punish karna.
Example: “Vo 3 din tak mujhse baat nahi karta tha.”
Smear Campaign – Peeche se aapki badnaami karna.
Example: “Usne sabko bola ki main mental hoon.”
Stonewalling – Jab koi kisi baat par poori tarah chup ho jaye.
Example: “Jab maine feelings batayi, usne kuch bola hi nahi.”
Supply – Narcissist ko milta hai jab log unki tarif karein ya control me rahein.
Example: “Vo sirf tab happy tha jab sab uski baat maanein.”
Self-Gaslighting – Jab aap apni feelings ko doubt karte ho because of long-term gaslighting.
Example: “Main sochta hoon – ‘kya sach me main hi galat hoon?’”
Self-Isolation – Jab aap logon se alag ho jaate ho due to trauma ya shame.
Example: “Mujhe lagta tha koi mujhe samjhega nahi, isliye sabse door ho gaya.”
Shaming Language – Aise shabd jo aapko chhota mehsoos karayein.
Example: “‘Tu kabhi kuch nahi banega’ – vo hamesha kehte the.”
Survival Mode – Jab aap sirf safe rehne ke liye emotional shutdown kar lete ho.
Example: “Mujhe lagta tha zinda rehne ke liye emotions band karne padenge.”
🔤 T
Trauma Bond – Pain aur love ka milan jo aapko toxic relationship me baandh ke rakhta hai.
Example: “Mujhe pata tha wo mujhe hurt karta hai, fir bhi main uske paas wapas chala jaata tha.”
Triangulation – Jab narcissist do logon ke beech confusion ya jhagda karata hai.
Example: “Papa mujhe mummy ke against bhadkate the.”
Toxic Positivity – Jab har problem me bhi zabardasti ‘positive soch’ thopi jati hai.
Example: “Main dard me tha, aur papa kehte the ‘soch positive rakho, rona kisko pasand hai?’”
Toxic Shame – Jab aapko har waqt lagta hai ki aap hi galat ho.
Example: “Vo kehte the ‘tu sabse bekaar hai’, aur mujhe lagta tha sach me hoon.”
Trauma Reenactment – Jab aap baar-baar wahi pain dobara experience karte ho.
Example: “Main wapas waisa hi toxic relation me chala gaya.”
🔤 U
Unpredictable Behavior – Jab kisi ka behavior badalta rahta hai bina kisi wajah ke.
Example: “Kabhi hug, kabhi ignore – samajh nahi aata tha kaise react karun.”
🔤 V
Validation Seeking – Jab aapko lagta hai ki aapki value tabhi hai jab doosre approve karein.
Example: “Main har kaam papa se poochta tha, bina unke haan ke kaam nahi karta.”
Victim Blaming – Jab victim ko hi galti ka zimmedar banaya jata hai.
Example: “Papa kehte – ‘tumhari harkat ne mujhe maarne pe majboor kiya’.”
Victim Mentality – Jab narcissist har waqt khud ko hi victim batata hai.
Example: “Unhone sabko bola ki unhe hi sab pareshaan karte hain.”
Vulnerability as Weakness – Jab emotions dikhana galti mana jaye.
Example: “Papa kehte – ‘ladke rote nahi hain’.”
🔤 W
Weaponized Incompetence – Jab koi jaan bujh ke kaam bigaadta hai taaki zimmedari se bach sake.
Example: “Vo kehta tha ‘mujhse bartan saaf nahi hote’, taaki sab kaam mujhe hi karna pade.”
Withholding Affection – Jab pyar aur attention jaan bujh kar roka jata hai punishment ke roop me.
Example: “Papa gusse me mujhe gale tak nahi lagate the jab tak main maafi nahi maangta.”
Word Salad – Jab narcissist confusing baatein karta hai taaki sach chup jaye.
Example: “Main poochta tha simple question, aur vo idhar-udhar ki baatein karne lagta.”
Wound Reopening – Jab koi bar-bar purane dard ya insult yaad dila ke hurt karta hai.
Example: “Papa hamesha kehte, ‘tu kabhi bhi pass nahi hota tha’, jab main kuch accha karta.”
Wounded Inner Child – Wo dard bhara bacha aapke andar jo abuse se heal nahi hua. Example: “Ab bhi jab koi chillata hai to mujhe bachpan ki yaad aati hai.”
🔤 Z
Zero Accountability – Jab narcissist kabhi bhi apni galti nahi maanta.
Example: “Jo bhi hota, blame doosre pe hi hota.”
Zeal for Control – Har situation pe control chahiye hota hai narcissist ko.
Example: “Papa chahte the ki sab unki marzi se chale – warna sab galat.”
Zone of Confusion – Jab aapko samajh hi nahi aata kya sach hai, kya jhooth.
Example: “Main itna confuse ho gaya tha ki mujhe hi shak hone laga.”
Zero Empathy – Doosron ke dard se koi lena dena nahi.
Example: “Main ro raha tha, aur usne TV dekhna band bhi nahi kiya.”
Zombified Living – Jab aap sirf survive kar rahe hote ho bina emotions ke.
Example: “Main jee raha tha, par zinda feel nahi karta tha.”
Disclaimer
Ye article mera personal experience aur research pe based hai. Main koi medical ya mental health professional nahi hoon, isliye ye content kisi bhi professional advice ka substitute nahi hai. Agar aapko kisi bhi tarah ka emotional ya psychological problem ho raha hai, to kripya karke kisi qualified expert ya therapist se sampark karein. Is blog ka maksad sirf jaankari dena hai aur aapko aware karna hai, na ki diagnosis ya treatment provide karna.
